I exercised extreme control over my first daughter. I checked her phone every week for questionable content and online messages. Sometime later, at 14, she started working part-time and secretly bought herself a second phone. Now my second daughter’s grandfather has given her an iPad, but I don’t want to resort to that kind of control anymore. But still, my daughter is only 11, and I’m worried. But at the same time, I don’t want her to see me snatch a new toy from her hands.